25 August 2009

The Value of Friendship

Lately I have come to realize more and more the eternal value of friendship. In looking at the things we often value in this life, I am coming to understand that the things we value can often be temporal and eventually fade away in this lifetime. Our friendships are gifts that we can enjoy, value and treasure in this life and in the span of eternity of heaven. Our friendships will last far beyond any possession or thing. Long after those things become dust, our friendships will go on in heaven.

In thinking about this, I posed some questions to myself that I would like to present to you too. "Am investing enough time in my friendships?" and "How well do I value my friends?" I feel that the time we spend with others is undervalued. It is often de-emphasized. It is, in my humble opinion, vastly important. I feel it is a pre-cursor to eternity. In some ways, a "dress rehearsal" for heaven. Think about it. When we die, we can't take things with us, but in heaven, we will be spending eternity with one another. Where we are now is a glimpse of what heaven can be like. Our friendships are eternal.

Christ valued friendships. He spent over three years of His life investing in 12 men, eating with them, enjoying life with them and investing His heart and love into them. He understood that the things that He valued highest were the friendships and the people He came to earth for. He did not come to earth for new cars, possessions, money, etc. It was people.

As a challenge, I would like to ask you to look at your friends differently today. What is it you value about them? Invest more intensely into their lives. Love them more deeply. Laugh harder. Cry with them when they hurt. Live life to the fullest with them.

Remember, these are friendships that will last for eternity. Why not make them a priority.

18 August 2009

Does God Need Time?

I am often caught in thought about the depth of who God really is. The truest essence of His character, His personality, and His existence.

Lately I was wondering about things like how God can operate outside of the constraints of this thing called "time". Did he actually create time so that He could interact with us? This kind of thinking makes me wonder what it means when the scripture says "a day is like a thousand years." Does time have no relevance in the presence of an almighty God? Have you ever had those moments when you seem to get lost in a moment and you look at the clock and say to yourself, "Where did the last hour go?" When we get to heaven, I believe that it is possible that time will be in many ways peripheral.

This was a topic that C.S. Lewis tackled in part of his book "Mere Christianity". The idea of God outside of time was challenging to him as well. Wrapping your mind around the idea that God can be outside of the past, present and future can be a little mind-bending.

One idea of this was put from another author:

"Another difficulty has to do with the question of how any actions on our part can be free if God knows in advance everything that we are going to do. The key here is that since God is outside of time, there is no “in advance” for Him. If God knows that you are doing something as you are doing it today, that does not make your action any less free. But since God is outside of time, there is no tomorrow for Him. All tomorrows are as today for Him. Thus God does not foresee you doing anything tomorrow; he simply sees you doing it as if it were today, even though from your point of view it is still tomorrow."

A bit mind-bending. Just thinking a bit lately & thought I would share the random firings of the synapses in my brain.

16 August 2009

Do You Have Spare Time In Your Day?

Ok, I think that sometimes inspiration can come from others. I was reading through some older articles I had and ran across this blog by a guy called Seth Godin. He is one of the most followed bloggers out there right now, apparently. Well, this blog made me reflect a lot on time management in my life. What is it that I do with my spare time? Just like my spare change, it has value and I should look at making it add up to something. It is a good article to chew on. Soooooooo.......


Is effort a myth?

People really want to believe effort is a myth, at least if we consider what we consume in the media:

  • politicians and beauty queens who get by on a smile and a wink
  • lottery winners who turn a lifetime of lousy jobs into one big payday
  • sports stars who are born with skills we could never hope to acquire
  • hollywood celebrities with the talent of being in the right place at the right time
  • failed CEOs with $40 million buyouts

It really seems (at least if you read popular media) that who you know and whether you get 'picked' are the two keys to success. Luck.

The thing about luck is this: we're already lucky. We're insanely lucky that we weren't born during the black plague or in a country with no freedom. We're lucky that we've got access to highly-leveraged tools and terrific opportunities. If we set that luck aside, though, something interesting shows up.

Delete the outliers--the people who are hit by a bus or win the lottery, the people who luck out in a big way, and we're left with everyone else. And for everyone else, effort is directly related to success. Not all the time, but as much as you would expect. Smarter, harder working, better informed and better liked people do better than other people, most of the time.

Effort takes many forms. Showing up, certainly. Knowing stuff (being smart might be luck of the draw, but knowing stuff is the result of effort). Being kind when it's more fun not to. Paying forward when there's no hope of tangible reward. Doing the right thing. You've heard these things a hundred times before, of course, but I guess it's easier to bet on luck.

If people aren't betting on luck, then why do we make so many dumb choices? Why aren't useful books selling at fifty times the rate they sell now? Why does anyone, ever, watch reality TV shows? Why do people do such dumb stuff with their money?

I think we've been tricked by the veneer of lucky people on the top of the heap. We see the folks who manage to skate by, or who get so much more than we think they deserve, and it's easy to forget that:

a. these guys are the exceptions
and
b. there's nothing you can do about it anyway.

And that's the key to the paradox of effort: While luck may be more appealing than effort, you don't get to choose luck. Effort, on the other hand, is totally available, all the time.

This is a hard sell. Diet books that say, "eat less, exercise more," may work, but they don't sell many copies.

With that forewarning, here's a bootstrapper's/marketer's/entrepreneur's/fast-rising executive's effort diet. Go through the list and decide whether or not it's worth it. Or make up your own diet. Effort is a choice, at least make it on purpose:

1. Delete 120 minutes a day of 'spare time' from your life. This can include TV, reading the newspaper, commuting, wasting time in social networks and meetings. Up to you.

2. Spend the 120 minutes doing this instead:

  • Exercise for thirty minutes.
  • Read relevant non-fiction (trade magazines, journals, business books, blogs, etc.)
  • Send three thank you notes.
  • Learn new digital techniques (spreadsheet macros, Firefox shortcuts, productivity tools, graphic design, html coding)
  • Volunteer.
  • Blog for five minutes about something you learned.
  • Give a speech once a month about something you don't currently know a lot about.

3. Spend at least one weekend day doing absolutely nothing but being with people you love.

4. Only spend money, for one year, on things you absolutely need to get by. Save the rest, relentlessly.

If you somehow pulled this off, then six months from now, you would be the fittest, best rested, most intelligent, best funded and motivated person in your office or your field. You would know how to do things other people don't, you'd have a wider network and you'd be more focused.

It's entirely possible that this won't be sufficient, and you will continue to need better luck. But it's a lot more likely you'll get lucky, I bet.

13 August 2009

My Heart For Justice

"Evil triumphs when good men do nothing" ~ Edmund Burke

This has been a quote that has guided a lot of my past few years of life. My heart has been pulled in a lot of different ways when I have seen the great injustices in the world today. In viewing these injustices, my heart has been broken for many thing. Primarily, it is the issue surrounding human trafficking, more specifically that of children. This is an issue that I want to see confronted and ended in the world today.

About a year and a half ago, God gave me a plan to hopefully multiply my efforts in confronting the many injustice issues in the world today. Through a conversation with a friend eating breakfast at Denny's, God gave me the vision to start a secondary school in YWAM called the School of Social Justice. So, much of my last year has been focusing on establishing this school at the base at YWAM Denver. We will be running this school this fall starting October 5th. It has been a long process of creating the school and all of the curriculum, while setting up the speakers for the school and corresponding with the incoming students.

So, hopefully, I will be filling you in on all that God is teaching me regarding this area over the next few months. Ultimately, my desire is to confront the issues by training students to confront the issues. My hope is that through this, evil will not triumph. Bless you!

11 August 2009

Something Profound, Something Inspirational

What can I say to put something profound in my first blog. I really can't think of anything inspirational right now. This seems to be one of those days when you could use a long vacation. There will be better days and more thought-provoking moments. Right now my brain could use a break.

Inspiration is coming.

08 August 2009

Welcome to my brain. Enjoy the ride. I am looking to delve into the world of blogging. We will see what becomes of it, I guess. I hope you enjoy it.

Bless you
Cary